“We devalue ourselves as we fail to admit our flaws to ourselves. It is when we fail to understand that our flaws create room for improvement and lessons. Both our flaws and strengths make the beautiful, unique human beings we are. We are content and valuable the way we are, just as the human beings”.
Leadership is an art that can be self-mastered by everyone! The lack of self-confidence and self-recognition prevents individuals from recognising their inner power, leading to sabotaging their inner leader. The inner leader has answers to all potential questions one might have. But, thanks to contemporary spiritualistic perspectives! There is more emphasis on the self-concept than ever in the contemporary context. It correlates to the Hindu philosophy’ Aham Brahmasmi’ (which translates to’ I am Bramma, the creator’).
Recognising the self and accepting it as it is, remains the kick-start for igniting the inner leader. We perceive our weaknesses with guilt and often forget that being human without flaws is impossible. We are here to play our unique roles and not to get caught up in the friction of perfectionism! Universal intelligence loves individuals’ unique roles; the world needs small or big impacts!
With this realisation, self-acceptance comes with more profound insights than just identifying the strengths and weaknesses. It comes with self-admiration when looking in the mirror and realising our uniqueness. It is the understanding that the external reality reflects how we perceive internally.
It is to accept that the reality we see, sense, perceive, smell, and touch is based on our mind’s interpretation. As to modern quantum perspectives, we live in a videogame-like stimuli. This means our reality is not as real as we perceive it. We are particles of the one consciousness that plays different roles. In each of us, the co-creator resides! Therefore, whenever life presents us with challenges, looking inside is the most efficient way to face them. We have all the answers because we co-created it.
Such more prominent perspectives might sound hard to accept because we often need to be more open to taking self-accountability. As human beings, we tend to tune into ‘external locus of control’ often. We tend to absorb power from external sources. It might be in the recognition one seeks from others, an appreciation we crave, or even some response we expect from others. The only realisation we should have is that all the reactions in the external world are the exact reflection of our inner reality. It is time to look into our subconscious if we dislike external circumstances. That’s the inner power!
We should start practising small actions to ignite and recognise the inner power. However, self-acceptance is a challenging journey. Its roots back to childhood and the experiences we have encountered. If we had grown up in a household where we were not valued, this counts as a ‘you are not enough’ affirmation to the subconscious. Thus, our subconscious attracts incidents frequently to prove ‘you are not enough’. The only way we can change is to tune into that inner critic and prove the subconscious the other way. We can do so through powerful affirmations or actions that prove ‘you are enough’.
This counter-intuitive approach takes time, but we can slowly get there. It takes a great deal of effort for our inner self to recognise that there is no fate, or nothing is wrong with us, and it is just that we are programmed to respond in a certain way. When we realise that life is not a punishment but an outcome of inputs we have planted into the subconscious, that becomes the inner power!
Our childhood or early teen days are crucial in shaping our behaviour. Let’s come from a childhood where emotions were absent, and parents would only respond after the adamant withdrawal of the child from eating or interacting. The child learns silent treatment as the best coping mechanism. Such a child becomes a narcissist or psychopath in future. Similarly, when a child learns to please its parents or teachers out of their way to convince its value and presence, such a child becomes an empath. As an empath, the child learns to put others first and tends to please others even at the detriment of self. These both are just extremes of how our early experiences shape our behaviour. For instance, a narcissist manipulates others to get what they want, and an empath gets manipulated by others’ energy.
Thus, such an influence from childhood decides our reality and what we want to do in life. We must remain connected to our roots to ensure self-learning and life purpose.
Even if we come from religious beliefs that preach karma and reincarnation, we must recognise that the reality we experience is a collection of thoughts and visualisations that we have pre-created, either from one lifetime or another. We are not human beings with souls but souls with a human experience! Karma is our thoughts and actions; we all have free will to change our fate or destiny. There is no one destiny! A destiny we choose to experience consciously comes from infinite probabilities of multiple non-linear timelines that co-exist! We need to tap into a pleasant and meaningful timeline! It is, again, a choice and free will!
There are, hence, layers to self-recognition and acceptance. Beyond our weaknesses, we rely on an ocean of emotions, thoughts, and experiences. We need to tap into different layers of self. We need to answer many Hows and Whys. As we can understand, self-acceptance is only possible by tracking limitations.
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